Anonymous asked: I would just like to say that I politely disagree with your antifeminist post. Being harassed sexually in ANY way, no matter how seemingly small or insignificant, is extremely irritating and degrading. Being cat called or being checked out is rude and annoying. I understand where you're coming from because people do tend to overreact, but as a teenage girl who is generally found attractive, I am constantly defending my intelligence and dignity because of men and I'm getting so sick of it.
I wholeheartedly understand where you come from, but I really believe there are just more constructive ways to handle the situation. Sharing what happened to you on a website which is (first of all about 70% female but also) very feminist in the first place really isn’t helpful. My personal qualms with modern feminism aside, even if you did want to raise awareness of it and related issues there are just other things to do. I mean yeah it’s not easy to just jump into the real world and start yelling at people but there are other websites and places where it would be much more needed and probably valued than here.
Although I guess I should have specified more; even though the posts en masse also bother me, I really don’t mean to belittle the experiences, but moreso the dramatizations of it. Minor yet constant things are a problem, like being catcalled or checked out are definitely sexist and over the top, but when someone adds things like “This is why I need feminism!” or “Proof of the Patriarchy” or “I hate men!” it just really goes even further downhill.
So tl;dr: I get where you’re coming from, I just think there are more constructive ways and places to handle it.
One of the stupidest things about Tumblr Feminism is that they spend a huge chunk of their time trying to “raise awareness of feminism” and stuff. On. Tumblr. Where 85% of people are feminists/share feminist beliefs.
I mean, you want to spread articles or statistics or shocking, big developments? Yeah, fine.
But, oh my God, some guy SNEERED at you today in a store?! Well, I’ve seen about 5,000 other posts about women having bad experiences with men and being oppressed, but now that I’ve seen your one minor incident, I finally believe in feminism! All it took was one insignificant story! Who knew?
If you want to know why gender stereotypes exist, take a good look at the difference between Girl’s Life and Boy’s Life Magazines. While Boy’s Life pushes boys to get outside and explore nature, Girl’s Life tells girls they should be worrying about fashion. While Boy’s Life offers stories of Scouts they can model themselves after, Girl’s Life asks if Facebook is ruining their love life. And, my personal favorite, while Boy’s Life gives it’s readers jokes so they can be the center of attention Girl’s Life posits, “Do You Know When to Shut Up?”
This is the message we’re giving our children.
It took me a minute to realize that the magazine on the left is actually the Girl Scout equivalent to the Boy Scout magazine shown on the right - I just assumed it was some tween version of Seventeen
It’s hard to understate how much this says.
These are not the same at all. Boy’s Life is a Boy Scout magazine. Girl’s Life is just a stereotypical gossip magazine with a similar name.
|Feminism:||Don't judge any one by their gender! Just do it by their hat.|
Video with naked females, males getting pushed around and stepped on, and a few lines that could be taken as demeaning: Sexist exclusively to females
Video with naked males, a male being used as a footstool, and lyrics that say men are completely worthless: Haha now you men know how we feel
|Feminists:||You can't say you hate feminism just because there are radfems in it!|
|Same feminists:||oh my gOD SOME GUY SAID SOMETHING THAT CAN BE CONSTRUED AS MISOGYNISTIC; THIS IS WHY I NEED FEMINISM|
Lewis’s Law is quite possibly the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard of. A few people comment on something in a stupid way? Yes. There are idiots on the internet. Your movement which has (in the third wave) caused just as many problems as it has solved is now justified. Because people left a stupid joke on the internet. Congrats on finding this amazing loophole.
|Feminist:||Wow! Men are useless thanks to one specific medical procedure! I guess that's the end of men!||500 years at most pass before a war, huge natural disaster, or lack of resources wipes out most of Earth's technology in most places|
|Descendant of feminist:||Fuck.|
My mom once said to me, “if you ever have car troubles but don’t know what the problem is, don’t take it in to a mechanic because they will try to sell you things you don’t need. Instead park yourself on the side of the highway, pop your hood, and look confused. Some mechanic will pull over to help and he’ll tell you what the problem is for free.” And that’s the day I realized that I could make the patriarchy work for me.
>assuming all mechanics are male
>implying that it’s only males who sell you things you don’t need
Wow we have a true Patriarchy buster right here let’s all clap
Anonymous asked: sure no one is encouraging men to have sex, but they aren't shaming them for having it afterward
I wouldn’t say that utterly, as said I completely acknowledge that women have it harder when it comes to things like slut-shaming, but considering how people can have religious families who would ‘shame’ and just get generally disapproving, angry extreme feminists accusing them of raping just by having sex, etc etc etc men can get a bit more ‘shame’ than people would think. I just mean feminists tend to oversimplify the issue (like a lot of things).